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Body Image: Transformed

Monday, March 10, 2014

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Body Image.

Two words tiny words yet so powerful. These two words have been a heavy burden on my heart as of late. A burden for myself, and now a burden for other girls and women. Believe it or not, not only teens and young girls are now dealing with this issue, women are too.

The whole issue of looking perfect is pervading our culture and the effects are farther reaching than we first expected. I've felt it heavier on my heart within the last year or so and by the grace of God I understand that the world's vision of beauty is not real. That doesn't  mean I'm immune to the effects of the lies though. Far too often I find fault with the way God created me and criticize the things that don't fit into this world's mold. It's perplexing to me why I'm beginning to feel this way at age 25; however, I only need to look around and see why more and more girls are feeling this way (including myself).

Books like 50 Shades of Grey, movies like The Wolf of Wall Street, and television shows like The Bachelor and Real Housewives run rampant. Sadly they are all considered "normal" now and not too many people bat an eyelash at the messages sent. (And don't even get me started on most of the songs played on the radio today!) Whether inadvertently or on purpose the message is the same: you must look perfect, or else. But what are we gaining, or should I say losing, from these lies?

Jesus taught a very important lesson on identifying false prophets. He said that we would know these false prophets by their fruits. Listen to His following words:

 “Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravenous wolves. You will know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes from thornbushes or figs from thistles? Even so, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit.  Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. Therefore by their fruits you will know them." Matthew 7:15-20

While we aren't talking directly about false prophets when dealing with the issue of body image, the principle Jesus taught here still holds true. Good trees produce good fruit and bad trees produce bad fruit. The messages being sent on body image today produce very, very bad fruit. Eating disorders, poor self-esteem, discontentment, vanity, fleshly desires and the like are common occurrences. The messages we get today are bad and therefore the fruit we are reaping is also bad; dare I say even evil? Yes, evil too.

Having the perfect body is an illusion, it's not real. Everybody is different and there is no one better than the other. God made us different for a reason. Even in the similarities between parents, children and siblings, there are major differences and that's a good thing! So why do we strive to all look the same and fit into the world's mold of beauty?

I love the first two verses in the 12 chapter of Romans. The apostle Paul is writing to the Roman church and his advice to them still rings true to us today. (Maybe even more so because of the all pervading lies currently embraced.) 

I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God. Romans 12:1-2


The Bible doesn't tell us to make our bodies perfect by getting a six pack, avoiding wrinkles and lifting things that sag. (News flash our bodies will NEVER be perfect this side of eternity!) True beauty doesn't come from our outward appearance. Check out my third post in the series True Biblical Beauty here to see what real beauty is. The Bible tells us to present our bodies as a living sacrifice. This means surrendering our bodies and presenting them to God. 

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The Bible also tells us not to be conformed to the pattern of this world and to be transformed by the renewing of our minds. This is the key to attacking and beating the lies fed today. You see the world has gotten beauty terribly wrong. It looks to things outwardly instead of things inwardly. And while there is nothing wrong with wanting to display outward beauty, it is not supposed to take up all of our attention.  

Just today as I began to criticize things in my appearance that I would like to change in order to fit the world's mold, I made the choice again to appreciate how it is that God made me. I love my chin that protrudes a little because God fashioned it just like my amazing, compassionate and kind grandmother. I love that my back is wider than I would like it to be because it means I'm strong to lift and care for little children that the Lord places in my care. I also love my shoulders that round forward just a tad because that's just the way God made them. 

I'm not perfect and neither are you. Even those who seem perfect are actually far from it. Our bodies are to be wholly surrendered to the One who made them. While it's not wrong to care for your bodies and even improve them, we must always remember that making idols out of them is not good either. 

I encourage everyone to thank God for their bodies and to love them just the way He made them. Sure it's ok to exercise, primp and even dress up. In fact God likes it when we care for them in that way. But don't be conformed to the world's standard of beauty, rather be transformed in the renewing of your mind. Our bodies belong to God and God doesn't make any mistakes.


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Lily of the Valley: True Biblical Beauty (Part Two)

Wednesday, January 8, 2014

So now that we've dug a little deeper into what true beauty is NOT, let's dig even deeper and see what true beauty actually is. But before we do I wanted to take a moment and just look at another beautiful photo of a lily.

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As I mentioned before I was truly inspired to write this series because of the verse I came across in Song of Solomon in the Amplified translation.

[She said] I am only a little rose or autumn crocus of the plain of Sharon, or a [humble] lily of the valleys [that grows in deep and difficult places]. Song of Solomon 2:1 AMP

The word humble really stuck out to me. If you look at the posture of these lilies, you'll see that they're in a position of humility, of reverence. It reminds me of a person bowed down in reverence to their Creator God with little to no regard of themselves. Their beauty comes solely from the Light above them. They are completely surrendered to their Creator and cared for by Him completely.

Jesus said: "Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin, yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is alive and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith?" Matthew 6:28b-30

We are more precious and beautiful to God than the lilies yet He still clothes the flowers and watches over them with the utmost care. The picture of a lily though can teach us a lot.

But even a glorious picture of a lily doesn't do true biblical beauty justice! We know that real beauty comes from the heart. Just as false beauty comes from within so too does true beauty come from the inside. 

We all know that our youthful skin will soon sag with time, wrinkles may line our face and our once full and luscious hair will turn thin and grey. It fades away with the passing years. We all know this. We see it in the ones we love. 

So why am I saying this? Why am I belaying the fact we know to be true? Because, what the world tries to avoid with Botox and other treatments, we as Christians should be embracing with open arms. This is actually good news for us! It allows us to focus on the real meaning of beauty in the heart. This type of beauty gets more glorious as the years go by and therefore makes our appearance more radiant, beautiful and genuine in time.

Take a look at the following verses:

Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. Colossians 3:12-15

True beauty is a heart full of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, patience, forgiveness, unity, peace, thankfulness and love. At the beginning of the this same chapter Paul says that we are to set our minds on the things that are above and not on the things that are the earth (verses 1 and 2). By keeping our minds set on eternal things above and on Jesus Christ, we can more fully embrace the true beauty that comes from within.

True beauty also displays the fruit of the Spirit which comes from within; love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control (Galatians 5:22). We cannot wear these things with make-up, clothes or elaborate hair-dos. No, these things must come from the heart. 

Your adornment must not be merely external—braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses;  but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. 1 Peter 3:3-4 AMP

This doesn't mean we can't take care of ourselves by maintaining good hygiene, wearing make-up, doing our hair and wearing jewelry. That in and of itself is definitely not a sin! It is very much a good thing because we need to take care of our bodies as it is the temple of the Lord. He gave us our bodies and we need to take care of them and even beautify them. After all we're ambassadors for Christ and taking care of our outward adornment is important too. It's when the emphasis is placed solely upon these things that we end up sinning and falling way short of true beauty.

True beauty really comes down to not only our heart position before God but also our reverence to Him. This brings me back to the picture of a lily of the valley. The mere position of a lily bowing down and reverencing it's Creator is a beautiful picture of what a heart wanting to glorify God and obey Him looks like.

  
True, biblical starts in the heart, makes it's way to your countenance and manifests itself in love and good fruits. True beauty comes from within.

Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Proverbs 31:30


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Lily of the Valley: True Biblical Beauty (Part One)

Saturday, January 4, 2014

Before we can delve into what true biblical beauty actually looks like, I wanted to address what beauty is not. Unfortunately I cannot adequately cover all of this in one post, however I hope to provide an outline of what true beauty does not look like. (And trust me I'm still learning as well!) But once we do understand what true biblical beauty is not, we'll be able to see what godly beauty, precious in His sight, really looks like.

Beauty, first and foremost is a heart position before God. Therefore false beauty will also have a wrong heart position. Everything in life starts from the inside out. God taught us this when He was looking for a new King of Israel, and Jesus later reiterated this to His disciples. Even the Proverbs are filled with teachings of right and wrong heart positions.

But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7

This is a very familiar verse. However we'd do well to not glance over it so quickly, especially since Jesus later on expounds on this very same topic.

"But what comes out of the mouth proceeds from the heart, and this defiles a person.  For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false witness, slander." Matthew 15:18-19

The Proverbs are also rich with teachings on the heart.

 Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life. Proverbs 4:23

Those of crooked heart are an abomination to the Lord, but those of blameless ways are his delight. Proverbs 11:20

A tranquil heart gives life to the flesh, but envy makes the bones rot. Proverbs 14:30

(There are a plethora of verses in the Bible that speak on the heart of man. I highly encourage anyone to do a Keyword Search at BibleGateway.com to read more about these important teachings in God's Word.)

Since the heart is so important to God we have to remember that false beauty begins with the heart.  Outward beauty that is bold, flirtatious, immodest, immoral and impure begins with a wrong heart position. We're all prone to it too. In fact, without a proper understanding of God's definition of true beauty we won't be set free to embrace true biblical beauty.

The Apostle Paul often wrote in his many epistles to the churches he helped to plant what holy living looked like in contrast to the unbelieving world. In his letter to the Ephesian church Paul contrasts right and wrong living. I've come to the conclusion that even though he's generally talking about holy conduct in the Christian church and what walking in Christ looks in contrast to wicked practices, we can also apply his words to what false beauty looks like in contrast to true, biblical, Christ-like beauty. Take a look at the following verses:

Now this I say and testify in the Lord, that you must no longer walk as the Gentiles do, in the futility of their minds. They are darkened in their understanding, alienated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them, due to their hardness of heart. They have become callous and have given themselves up to sensuality, greedy to practice every kind of impurity. Ephesians 4:17-19

Callousness, sensuality, greediness, impurity. These are still more fruits of false beauty.

One of the most powerful chapters in the Bible that sets forth false beauty is Proverbs 7. I won't post the whole passage here but I do want to highlight some key phrases within this chapter to help give us further clarification.

The adulterous woman full of false beauty in this chapter is wily of heart, smooth with her words, dressed immodestly, loud and wayward, bold in face, seductive in speech and appearance, and from what I can gather from this passage, full of discontent.

Did you catch her heart condition though? Wily in heart. Some synonyms for wily include, crafty, cunning, devious, shrewd, sly, and tricky.

The Bible uses to an adulterous woman to illustrate what false beauty looks like, but a woman doesn't have to be an adulteress in order to portray false beauty.

Often in today's society, false beauty portrays itself in much more subtle and unattainable ways too. While we can't ever truly know someone else's true heart position before God, we can be aware of the fruits of of false beauty: impurity, immodesty, flirtatious, bold, brazen, devious and hard hearted. 

Add to this though the amazing technological advances, a lot of the false beauty being portrayed is not only wrong heart motives, but also just plain wrong. It's not real. It's fake beyond fake!

Today's advertising and media is full of immodest and seductive looking women. In fact, these women are so made up and airbrushed that they don't even look like themselves! Watch these videos below to see just how fake the beauty we see in the media really is.


 
While I can't purely blame the media for all these problems (the problems go much, much deeper than this), I can say that the media has not helped one bit. Heart positions, unattainable beauty, and false advertising have all contributed to the difficulties women face today dealing with beauty. I highly recommend all women to read former Victoria's Secret's Angel Kylie Bissuti's book I'm No Angel: From Victoria's Secret Model to Role Model. It's an eye opening, shocking testimony of what really goes on in the world of fashion and Hollywood's version of beauty.

This of course the bad news. The good news? God's true beauty is far more glorious than any magazine ad, media image or photoshopped woman than any of us could ever imagine. And we too can become this gloriously beautiful woman that gets even more beautiful as we grow in grace each passing year. Our earthly bodies will wither and fade, but our heart and spirit will live for eternity. God's much more concerned with our inward heart position and character than we'll ever know. And while it's ok to want to look nice, dress nice do our make-up and hair nice, it all has to start with a right heart position.
Join me next time as we discuss what true biblical beauty really looks like!


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Lily of the Valley: True Biblical Beauty (Intro)

Wednesday, January 1, 2014


Women today are bombarded with messages of how to be beautiful. From magazine ads, to Hollywood actresses, to Victoria's Secret models, to television commercials! Even while walking on the sidewalk down a busy street or driving on the highway with a billboard flashing the latest mascara, we're constantly being told how to dress, act and look. It's hard not to get sucked in to the whirlwind of it all! I know I have more than once.

Whether we're comparing ourselves to other women or critiquing our own body image, the world's standard of beauty is practically inescapable unless you live in cave in the mountains.

Confession: I've been really struggling with this issue lately. It's been something that I've tried to cover up too by wearing nice clothes, "braiding" my hair and just plain old obsessing over how I look. I know I'm not the only one who does this either. So a few weeks ago, as I was reading through the Song of Solomon, a verse about beauty in the Amplified translation literally hit me square in the face. It's been in the back of my mind for a while now and as I was fixing my hair yesterday I felt like God was prompting me to write about this very thing. Because like I said before, I know I'm not the only one who struggles with this.

So I'm kicking off this New Year (also my one year anniversary in blogging! Yay!) by starting a series on true biblical beauty. I hope to address the lies we've been fed about beauty, what God sees as true beauty given to us in His Word, and how we can begin to embrace the true biblical beauty. I hope all the ladies (and even men) out there who read this blog will join me for this series.

Happy New Year to you all! 

[She said] I am only a little rose or autumn crocus of the plain of Sharon, or a [humble] lily of the valleys [that grows in deep and difficult places]. Song of Solomon 2:1 AMP


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