As a woman I know I'm not the only one who struggles with
comparison. I've heard from far too many other women, both single and married that
they often spend a
lot of time taking
mental notes of what others have and what they may lack. It's too easy
personally to critique my own hair, skin and clothes with others, and
think that if only I looked more like them, then I will be accepted.
my hair is straight, curly, up, down, short, long, layered, angled....
the picture) then maybe a guy will notice me better or at least strike
conversation with me. Or perhaps if I were more quiet, loud, gentle,
extravagant, outgoing, flexible... (sigh) you catch my drift.
But this comparison game is dangerous and more often than not will lead to doubt, fear and discontent. It becomes a vicious cycle of compare and contrast without a second thought as to whether or not what we're doing is right. Can I let you in on a secret? It's not right. Comparison, especially vain comparison, is definitely wrong. Now I'm not saying that it's wrong to want to aspire, to want to cultivate certain qualities of someone else we may admire just as long as we remember that we are unique and not the same as them.
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